Do You Ever Feel Like You’re the Only One?

Erik Cooper —  July 2, 2012 — 1 Comment

My driver’s license expires this month. I’ve been avoiding my renewal while we wait for our new address to become official, but the clock is ticking. So last Friday I gave in, packed my two youngest in the car for a lesson in government efficiency, and headed to everyone’s favorite bureaucratic institution:

The BMV.

We updated my personal info – address, organ donor, eyeglass prescription….ehem….weight – and then proceeded to the photography booth.

“Please remove your glasses, sir.”

Um, my glasses? These are as much a part of my face as the freckles.

“Sorry, sir. Glasses aren’t allowed anymore. Oh, and if you smile, no teeth.”

For real? Are you going to take my fingerprints and book me while I’m here, too?

“It’s all about the facial recognition software nowadays, honey.”

With those instructions and no re-takes offered, here is my official driver’s license photo for the next six years:

Pretty sure this came with a free warrant for my arrest.

As I walked to the car wallowing in self-pity (my kids chuckling at my newly enshrined image), I felt a tinge of true embarrassment. What will the airport screeners think? How about the lady at the check-out counter? For a minute or two, something as silly as a driver’s license picture made me feel…


That is, until my buddy Daniel sent me a little consolation.

This photo comes with a free Homeland Security monitoring for life!

We’re prone to feel alone. To feel isolated. To compare ourselves to others and to find ourselves lacking (or in all honesty, superior). Somewhere in our wiring we default to believe the lie: “I’m the only one.”

I’m the only one….

Who loses my temper with the kids.

Who struggles with my marriage.

Who can’t keep a relationship.

Who feels shame for my past.

Who deals with low self-esteem.

Who struggles with food and weight issues.

Who doesn’t understand Scripture.

Who has lost my job.

Who hates my father.

Who can’t pay the bills.

Who has been sexually abused.

Who suffers with infertility.

Or maybe your “I’m the only one” manifests in feelings of superiority. As in I’m the only one….

Who gets it.

Who hears from God (this makes you a great candidate to lead a cult).

Who has it all figured out.

Who doesn’t struggle with those silly things.

Who has enough wisdom/courage/compassion (pick your form of self-righteousness).

We’re prone to measure ourselves against one another. But while comparison can be inspiring (I admire those qualities), it’s more often deceiving. Comparison leaves us feeling alone, or comparison leaves us feeling elite.

I’m not here to lower the bar on what it means to be human just so we can all feel better about ourselves. But I am here to point to Christ. The one who levels the playing field. Who reminds us all that we’re neither alone or elite.

“For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus. And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes. There is no longer Jew or Gentile,slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
-Galatians 3:26-28 NLT

Do you ever feel like you’re the only one?

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